Hi i am 27 years old female and have reached a point in my life where i dont know what to do. I am at my highest weight of 356 and have been diagnosed with Diabetes and High Blood Pressure. I don't know what to do anymore to lose weight. I need someone to help me and give me advice.. who knows maybe a buddy to email back and forth for motivation! I have a fiance that i eventually want to get married to though i keep puttin it off because i want to be able to wear a beautiful dress and walk down the aisle and have everyone look at me *thinking to themselves* wow she did it! she lost all that weight! Anyone out there willing to be my buddy and help me out..

Thanks to all if any that reply..

JR

Dear J3NN1F3R, This is the first time that I have ever contacted someone on the computer, Today is also the first day that I have weighed myself and I 'm glad that my scale couldn't tell me out loud. I am lost... My weight has gotten past the point to where I am afraid that if I don't do something there will be no going back. I don't have diabetes yet, my blood pressure is good, but I can't stand that long and some days are worst than others. I am on heart medicine to keep my heart beating normal because just last year I developed palipations... I want to live for myself ..for my kids and I need help... I have a family that would help me with anything but we can understand each other better ...I weigh as of today 360...and by the way I am 32. You can lost weight and (I'm nervous) I can be your buddy if you want...

LaFlora

WHERE DO YOU LIVE ?  I will help you. I am 37  live in Florida and thanks to Weight Watchers have lost over 30 pds about 7 years ago and have not gained any of it back.  I know how hard it is and you can do it.  Just think of how you wan't to look on your wedding day.  You should ask you fiance to help you also. 

Good luck I know you can do it.

Beth

Dear JR

I too am looking for a friend to help talk about the diet stuff. It seems like this is not going to be easy, I am 34 and currently weigh 253. I am trying to focus on 50 lbs in the next 6 months. I look at that number and get overwhelmed at the weight I have to loose! I figure if i take it in small numbers it might help?!?!?!  

Hi there!

Just a simple thing you can do but limit yourself on white sugar.'

I have been using Splenda instead and girl it has been working.  I dont have to do anything and I am losing weight!

 The doctor said that Splenda is fine, but other sugar substitutes he wont recommend.

Your fiancee loves you just the way your are, but you do not love you...yet anyways.   

You want to look like a knockout on your special day...that is very cool!  And very human for us ladies!

Hope this little piece of info helps you!

Hi Jennifer, You are very brave to want to do this. The most important thing is to want to do it for yourself, and any one outside of that circle that gains anything from your achievment is an extra bonus. I live in Texas but would love to be your computer buddy. Anything worth having is worth working hard for. I have done the weight battle thing and am now doing it for the last time. I am currently over 200 pounds and I'm only 5 feet tall. But On Jan 1 I made my move. I cleaned out my fridge with any thing that was not good for me. If it's not in the house you can't eat it. And Grocery shop for healthy things so if you do slip and need to snack only good things are in the house.

Be kind to yourself, if you fall off get back up and keep going. Set small goals for your self. I believe I failed so many times because I would set the big goals and when I didnt happen over night I'd quit. Not this time.  I have not weighed my self but will, on feb 1st.  and I will post my progress. That alone makes me push a little harder when I work out. Let's do this....

Ms Frankie in Texas

 Hi,

I'm trying to do something similar. A close friend of mind is getting married at the end of the year and asked me to a bridesmaid. I want to be able to wear a beautiful dress. I know that I am not the focus of the wedding but I'll be in those pictures they take that will get looked at time and time again...so I want to look nice for them! I don't have diabetes and I don't have blood pressure but my parents do. I haven't checked my weight in a while but I'm sure I'm about 240lb. I'm just like you. I dont know what to do. And I don't know where to start.

Hi LaFlora. First of all let me say thank you for your response. you have been blessed with being able to have kids and that alone should be your motivation to lose weight. I have been trying to have a family for the past two years and still to this day have not been able to conceive. I guess it is for a reason GOD has not let me get pregnant. So i have decided that i want to lose weight for myself so that i can be healthy and enjoy life more. There are times that i get really depressed because i can not go to amusement parks or restaurants b/c i know i will not be able to get on the rides or sit in a booth. It really embarrasses me when i go out to eat with friends and we have to sit at a regular table because i do not fit in a booth... i just want to crawl under the table and not come out. I have been thinking of starting weight watchers.. What do you say? We can be email buddys and motivate one another.. We can trade pictures and keep track of one anothers weight loss! I am so ready to shed this weight! Aren't you?

 Hope to hear from you

 Jennifer

I live in TX. I want to ask my fiance for help though i am not sure what his reaction will be..WoW thats good you have not gained any of the weight back! Happy for you..  I have considered weight watchers though i am not sure if i will follow through since i am going to be doing this diet alone.. that is why i need someone to provide moral support.

Thanks for your reply =) i really appreciate it

jenn

Hi Flora.. First of all i want to say thank you for your response. I was not expecting a response back from anyone! =) Yes, we can  be buddies and support one another in this battle of weight loss we are in. I know you can lose weight for yourself and your children.. You would be able to do so much more and live an active life and run around with them. I have not been able to become pregnant though i am guessin cause i am so overweight that it just harder for me to be able to conceive. There are times that i get so depressed that i dont even want to leave my house... i want to be able to go to amusement parks, concerts, do normal things though i cant because im afraid ppl will laugh at me cause i am not able get on the rides, i do not fit in the seats.. etc.. i feel ppl just staring at me as im walkin down the streets or in the stores... employees just ignore me and move on to the skinny ppl and ask them if they need help.. i am tired of getting treated like this.. i just dont know why i cant lose weight... I have been thinking of joinin weight watchers.. what do you think? Hope you got my first response! If you like we can exchange email addresses and motivate one another!

Hope to hear from you soon LaFlora... Remember we can do anything we set our mind to.

Jennifer =)

Hi Ms Frankie. First of all let me say thank you for your response. I have been thinkin alot about this lately and i have come to a point in my life that i cant take it anymore.. i see the ppl as i walk down the streets and in the stores the disgusting looks i get... i was watching oprah the other day and saw the program of the best life challenge.. i have printed out the contract to myself and have it hanging on my cubicle wall... I know we can do this and have been thinking about joinin weight watchers.. what do you think? I know we can do this! I would love to be your computer buddyy.. Hope to hear from you

Jennifer =)

Hey Jen, It's LaFlora.... I was reading and you said that you printed out the contract from Oprah yesterday. I did too. Its laying on my printer waiting to be signed. I just got back from the doctor and she told me that the only thing I could do to help my back was to keep moving. So that's my plan. I'm gonna hopefully do 20 mins a day. If you want we can help each other. I want to shout out to all the people on here that want to help others because when you have weight issues sometimes you feel like noone understands. You guys are really great and I am soo glad that I got on here. I will sign my contract. We can lose weight we just have to believe in ourselves.... No matter what your size Jen you are beautiful. I myself understand how you feel about wanting to look hot . I myself could settle for simmering....

       LaFlora

Hey Flora... Well thats good.. sign the contract and every time u feel the urge to eat something.. think about that contract.. and ask yourself are you really hungry or is it just habit.. I am hopefully going to start walking atleast 30-45 mins a day or every other day as time permits.. Hopefully we start to notice the change in our bodies as we proceed with this new task in our lives..

Jenn

Hi Jennifer,

 I am  28 years old and I know how hard it is to get started and lost weight.  I recently put on a lot of weight and I don't feel like myself anymore.  I weighed in the other day at .  I know it may not seem like much, but I am only 5'0...if that.  I am taking baby steps everyday to change my eating habits, but somedays I just don't do well.  As far as exercise goes, I will start to walk my dog for 20-30 minutes or walk on my treadmill for at least 30 minutes during the week.  Changing habits and losing weight is a challenge for me everyday.  Please feel free to write back.  Good Luck!!

Jody

Hey Jennifer, I saw that show to, and a lot of the things that were mentione I was gald to see I was already trying. Like not eating before going to bed, (that used to be my big thing). Also drinking more water. It keeps you full. I am also learning to eat slower. When I eat fast (like I used to) you dont give your food time to reach your stomach so you keep eating. Then you're stuffed.

But as for the stares you get from people, ignore them. You can't allow someone else's opinion of you, define your opioion of yourself. So what you may be a size larger than them, but what do they feel like in side. I have a friend that used to tip the scales at 245 and was unhappy. She had the Gastric surgery done and is now a size 4. But has her opioion of her self changed, NO. She is still unhappy, and looking for approval from others. Honestly she is beautiful. But she was beautiful when she was 245. It has to come from inside.

You have a man that loves you, embrace that and him, and keep focus on your goal.